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Promoting resilience in children

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  This post will be about resilience and how children can use it to help them when they face adversity. Gilligan, 2009 cited in Leverett, 2016 says that resilience is used to describe the capacity of someone to prevent, minimise or overcome any damaging affects of adversity.  Adversity can be anything challenging in a child's life for example, the death or illness of a family member. How they react and adapt to these events is based on how resilient they are. Resilience can be built up through supportive relationships. A child’s feeling of security and the quality of the parent- child relationship and so a positive and engaging parenting approach can help promote your child’s resilience from birth. Werner and Smith, 1982 cited in Punch, 2013 shows how risk factors affect children differently, they found that the group of children who were resilient were securely attached to their main caregivers. There was also a larger support network of adults who they trusted. Positive role mode

How sleep problems can affect a childs well-being.

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Up to 40% of children will experience sleep problems, such as difficulty with falling or staying asleep, (Mindell et al, 2006 cited in Williamson et al, 2020).   Carrying on with the theme from my last post I would now like to discuss how sleep problems can affect a child's well-being. Research that consisted of a longitudinal study of children in Australia has demonstrated how having sleep problems in early childhood can cause multiple impairments in a child's well-being at age 10-11 years old, (Williamson et al, 2020). The study examined five different sleep trajectories. They found that the children that had limited sleep problems in infancy or preschool only showed small impairments with internalising symptoms such as anxiety or low mood. However, children who demonstrated persistent sleep problems and sleep problems in middle childhood had moderate impairments in their ability to self-control. Goldstein and Walker, 2014, cited in Williamson et al, 2020, showed

Sleep routines and consistency

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  Over the six years I have been a parent the one thing I have relied on is the bedtime routine. Luckily my kids so far have been the type to still sleep well even if they are out of their usual routine. However, every night I put my kids to bed reminds me how beneficial it is to set up consistency at bedtime from the start. Jamie's Routine When Jamie was a baby all the books I read mentioned some sort of a bedtime routine. There are some parents who would rather not have any routines and allow the family dynamic to be child-led as much as possible and that's ok to, if it works for your family don't change it. At the start the routine was bath time, breast-feed while reading a story and then he would fall asleep on the breast and I would gently place him into the bedside crib until the next feed was due. As he got older and moved into his own room and onto formula the plan was to give him the bottle, read the story and then learn to self settle. This didn't happen. What

Daily routine and lockdown

 In Northern Ireland we are currently at the end of the Christmas break, my son was due to go back to p2 tomorrow (today was a development day). The schools are now closed for at least a week for all pupils except for vulnerable children and the children of key workers. Everyone is having to do online learning.  It's ok for me as I'm on maternity and so I don't need to worry about home educating while trying to get on with my own work. But not all parents have this luxury time to put in to their children's education and I really sympathise. Daily Routine At the moment the daily routine focuses on Rosie but while Jamie was in school it was all about getting him there on time. 6:00am- wake up to Rosie shouting at us from her cot (she is still in our room). We usually bring her into our bad and let her play with some toys between us while we take turns in dozing. 7.00am- Jamie wakes up and comes into our room. Some mornings it is sooner, it just depends on how loud Rosie i

Christmas 2020

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 So I haven't posted in a while what with the Christmas holiday and everything.  Christmas 2020 was quieter than last year thanks to covid-19. We were still up early to see if Santa had been, he had, and Jamie was the best big brother and 'helped' Rosie open her presents.  After presents Scott had a quick nap and we got ready and went to visit family where more presents were opened. I had the meat in the oven on low as it was the first Christmas dinner I've made. I was so nervous that something would go wrong.  Luckily it didn't. By the time we got back from visiting it was dinner rather than lunch. We had our starter, lentil soup made by my mother in law and then Jamie was full and Rosie was tired so we decided to save the rest of dinner until boxing day!  It still worked out ok and to be honest I really enjoyed the quieter Christmas at home. There was no need to try and rush two tired kids home for a late bedtime. We were able to relax afterwards without being to

The Nativity and how it related to me this week

We are due our third child in April. We were now faced with getting a double pram and getting rid of our old silver cross. This was abit emotional for me as we've had it for 6 years. It was Jamie's pram then Rosie used it but now seeing as we'll be having another baby in quick succession we needed a double pram.  After toying with the idea of keeping the silver cross and just using a buggy board for Rosie we chose the babylo duo x2 which is great for our needs as I realised Rosie would only be 13 moths when the new baby arrives and a buggy board was not going to be practical. But I was then torn about what to do with the old silver cross. Most people would give it to charity to sell or just sell it on themselves. However, this didn't feel right to me.  For a week I pondered about what to do and then suddenly I thought of the Nativity story. It sits differently with me now that I'm a parent. When I was taught the story in school the focus was of course on the baby Je

Sleep deprivation- the difference between the first and second child.

 Sleep deprivation is something all soon to be parents are told to expect. I'm now on my third pregnancy and I have noticed a difference in  lack of sleep between both of my children at different stages. With my first it felt awful at the start because I wasn't used to it. I was trying to breast-feed and keep on top of the housework. Everyone kept saying sleep when the baby sleeps, but how could I when there was so much stuff that I had to do? Some chores could only be done when he was sleeping, like taking the finished laundry upstairs and putting it away.  But new-born stage soon turned into baby stage and he began sleeping for longer periods at night and so I wasn't as tired during the day and so I had more energy for other activities. By nine months he was on formula and basically sleeping through the night, though getting him to sleep was still a song and dance but once he was sleeping that was him. My daughter on the other hand is different entirely. The new-born stag