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Baby-led weaning basics.

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 A big milestone in a new parents journey, and even with subsequent babies, is when they begin eating solid food. However, common problems can be that baby doesn't seem keen on lumpy food or mealtimes become a battle with an older toddler. You want to provide them with healthy fruit and vegetables, they want chicken and chips. My aim for this post is to help parents with the basics of baby-led weaning. When to start solids. Current NHS guidelines states to start babies on solids at six months alongside their usual breastmilk or formula. However, some babies seem ready before this but this is a common misconception.  Parents can be told by others that certain signs their babies are showing means their ready for solids but this is not the case. Parents are told that:  Night waking is a sign of readiness. Babies wake during the night for numerous reasons but if baby is under six months old and does seem genuinely hungry then more milk should be offered rather than solids. Others belie

Trying to make loss less taboo

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‘I’m sorry... There’s no heartbeat’.......Suffering a miscarriage is devastating. February is the anniversary of my miscarriage and so I have edited the original post as I now feel more comfortable adding more detail to my story. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks between Jamie and Rosie. I remember when we found out. I was getting Jamie ready for school and had to run to the toilet. I froze. I hadn’t had the classic doubling over with cramps that you see in movies so I wasn’t prepared for what I saw. I phoned my partner and my mum in a panic. I phoned the early pregnancy unit and was booked in for a scan.  The scan My mum came with me and sat with me while I got the scan. It was an internal scan and thankfully I had done some research beforehand so I at least knew to expect this.  I'll never forget the words of the midwife, "I'm sorry...there's no heartbeat". I sobbed. She then said, ‘did you have no idea?’, and at the time I didn’t think much of what was said but no

Sleep routines and consistency

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  Over the six years, I have been a parent the one thing I have relied on is the bedtime routine. Luckily my kids so far have been the type to still sleep well even if they are out of their usual routine. However, every night I put my kids to bed reminds me how beneficial it is to set up consistency at bedtime from the start. Jamie's Routine When Jamie was a baby all the books I read mentioned some sort of a bedtime routine. There are some parents who would rather not have any routines and allow the family dynamic to be child-led as much as possible and that's ok too, if it works for your family don't change it. At the start, the routine was bath time, breastfeeding while reading a story and then he would fall asleep on the breast and I would gently place him into the bedside crib until the next feed was due. As he got older and moved into his own room and onto formula the plan was to give him the bottle, read the story and then learn to self settle. This didn't happen.

Daily routine and lockdown

 In Northern Ireland we are currently at the end of the Christmas break, my son was due to go back to p2 tomorrow (today was a development day). The schools are now closed for at least a week for all pupils except for vulnerable children and the children of key workers. Everyone is having to do online learning.  It's ok for me as I'm on maternity and so I don't need to worry about home educating while trying to get on with my own work. But not all parents have this luxury time to put in to their children's education and I really sympathise. Daily Routine At the moment the daily routine focuses on Rosie but while Jamie was in school it was all about getting him there on time. 6:00am- wake up to Rosie shouting at us from her cot (she is still in our room). We usually bring her into our bad and let her play with some toys between us while we take turns in dozing. 7.00am- Jamie wakes up and comes into our room. Some mornings it is sooner, it just depends on how loud Rosie i

Christmas 2020

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 So I haven't posted in a while what with the Christmas holiday and everything.  Christmas 2020 was quieter than last year thanks to covid-19. We were still up early to see if Santa had been, he had, and Jamie was the best big brother and 'helped' Rosie open her presents.  After presents Scott had a quick nap and we got ready and went to visit family where more presents were opened. I had the meat in the oven on low as it was the first Christmas dinner I've made. I was so nervous that something would go wrong.  Luckily it didn't. By the time we got back from visiting it was dinner rather than lunch. We had our starter, lentil soup made by my mother in law and then Jamie was full and Rosie was tired so we decided to save the rest of dinner until boxing day!  It still worked out ok and to be honest I really enjoyed the quieter Christmas at home. There was no need to try and rush two tired kids home for a late bedtime. We were able to relax afterwards without being to

The Nativity and how it related to me this week

We are due our third child in April. We were now faced with getting a double pram and getting rid of our old silver cross. This was abit emotional for me as we've had it for 6 years. It was Jamie's pram then Rosie used it but now seeing as we'll be having another baby in quick succession we needed a double pram.  After toying with the idea of keeping the silver cross and just using a buggy board for Rosie we chose the babylo duo x2 which is great for our needs as I realised Rosie would only be 13 moths when the new baby arrives and a buggy board was not going to be practical. But I was then torn about what to do with the old silver cross. Most people would give it to charity to sell or just sell it on themselves. However, this didn't feel right to me.  For a week I pondered about what to do and then suddenly I thought of the Nativity story. It sits differently with me now that I'm a parent. When I was taught the story in school the focus was of course on the baby Je

The not so naughty elf on our shelf

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The elves are back! This little guy being back in the shops means that it's finally Christmas time. If this is your first time seeing the elf I'm sure you're wondering, but w hat's the point?  The elf comes alive at night and ends up getting up to mischief. The child comes downstairs to find out what the elf has got up to during the night. The Elf on the shelf watches the child's behaviour throughout the day and then reports back to Santa if the child has been naughty or nice. While the initial concept seems a good idea, it is flawed. How can we teach our children to behave when the elf themselves misbehaves? If anything the elf sets a bad example.    SHow to use the elf and still promote positive behaviour.  I have found a resource that has a Christmas kindness countdown. It is abit like a kindness advent calendar. The idea is that the child sticks a bauble onto Santa's beard for each day and they carry out the kind thing marked on the beard. My concept to incl

Finding out I'm having two children under two

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So I am 21 weeks pregnant with baby number three. I love my children and we had always thought about having a third but hadn't intended on it being so soon after Rosie's birth.  I had booked an appointment at the GP to get the contraceptive implant and when there I was asked if I was pregnant. I had assumed not as I was exclusively breastfeeding and my periods hadn't returned. I had read that exclusively breastfeeding could be used as a form of contraceptive, it's called  lactational amenorrhea . I thought this was going ok and that I was getting the implant in for when Rosie started solids so I wouldn't get caught out. How wrong I was.  So the GP asks me to take a test and I do. She looks and says well no little brothers or sisters for you Rosie! Thank goodness! She begins to get prepped to put the implant in and so happens to glance at the test again before disposing of it. Oh! she says. What? I said. She then proceeds to tell me that there is a very faint line!