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Five parenting styles and their outcomes

When a person or couple decide to try for a baby they usually have a basic idea of how they will parent their child and how they will be as parents. These thoughts are usually based around their own experiences with their parents and how they were raised. Some will have had a positive childhood and the parent will want to raise their child as they were. However, some experiences may have been negative and the parent will then express that they do not want their child to have to go through what they did.  The strategies parents use can fall into categories or ‘styles’. There are four main styles and there are some that are more modern. I will give a brief summary of the main ones and how these styles may affect the outcomes for the children.  Authoritative This style is characterised by reasonable demands that are combined with high responsiveness to their child’s needs. The parents that use this style will have high expectations for their children but will also

How sleep problems can affect a child's well-being.

Up to 40% of children will experience sleep problems, such as difficulty with falling or staying asleep, (Mindell et al, 2006 cited in Williamson et al, 2020).   Carrying on with the theme from my last post I would now like to discuss how sleep problems can affect a child's well-being. Research that consisted of a longitudinal study of children in Australia has demonstrated how having sleep problems in early childhood can cause multiple impairments in a child's well-being at age 10-11 years old, (Williamson et al, 2020). The study examined five different sleep trajectories. They found that the children that had limited sleep problems in infancy or preschool only showed small impairments with internalising symptoms such as anxiety or low mood. However, children who demonstrated persistent sleep problems and sleep problems in middle childhood had moderate impairments in their ability to self-control. Goldstein and Walker, 2014, cited in Williamson et al, 2020, showed that sleep c

The not so naughty elf on our shelf

The elves are back! Many people bring elf on the shelf into their homes at the start of December. The elf comes alive at night and ends up getting up to mischief. The child finds out in the morning what the elf has got up to. Elf on the shelf watched the child throughout the day and then reports back to Santa if the child has been naughty or nice. While the idea seems good it is flawed. How can we teach our children to be good by using threats of the elf telling on them when the elf themselves misbehave.   I have found a resource that has a Christmas kindness countdown. The idea is that the child sticks a bauble onto Santa's beard for each day and they carry out the kind thing marked on the beard. The elf hides with the next days bauble, the child has to find the elf and bauble that morning before they can pick the kind act for the day. This helps to reinforce positive behaviour more so than threats of not getting presents.  To find this resource head to and let m