Sleep routines and consistency
When Jamie was a baby all the books I read mentioned some sort of a bedtime routine. There are some parents who would rather not have any routines and allow the family dynamic to be child-led as much as possible and that's ok to, if it works for your family don't change it.
At the start the routine was bath time, breast-feed while reading a story and then he would fall asleep on the breast and I would gently place him into the bedside crib until the next feed was due. As he got older and moved into his own room and onto formula the plan was to give him the bottle, read the story and then learn to self settle. This didn't happen. What really happened was that he had the bottle and I read the story and then stayed in the room trying to get him to sleep. This continued with different methods like the gradual retreat, and finally controlled crying which definitely didn't last long. What ended up working was me holding his hand until he fell asleep. This has now been Jamie's routine up until Rosie was born. Breast feeding an infant while holding a five year olds hand wasn't working. Now I start Rosie's routine around half 6/7 then Jamie around 8/8.30. We go upstairs with a cup of milk or water, teeth brushed, PJ's on then a story. After the story I spray his 'magic sleep spray'. It's an aromatherapy spray from Avon which I have said will help him sleep, you can buy it here. We then do a high five, fist bump, hug and kiss, say goodnight and then I leave the room and he falls asleep himself.
Rosie's routine is similar to Jamie's now she is on formula. She is still in a cot in our room but will hopefully move to her own room soon. She gets her nappy changed and sleep suit on and then she drinks her bottle while I read a story. Then she is put into her cot and the night light switched on and she will finish her bottle. The next half hour or longer involves me putting her back down and rubbing her back/ letting her roll around the cot while occasionally saying 'sleepy time', 'lie down', or 'night night'. The aim being the word association will kick in and she will start to settle to sleep sooner. I also have a white noise app on my phone which I put on as background noise. Once she is asleep I then leave the room. Rosie still doesn't sleep through the night but she is getting better and I hope that it is maybe just because she is still in with us.
Both kids have slightly different routines but the similarities is they always go to bed at the same time, they always get a story and I'm always involved. Scott does do Jamie's routine if Rosie is being really fussy but if Scott does Rosie's routine she always plays up and has him wrapped around her finger. She knows if she shouts enough he will lift her out
What are your kids bedtime routines? Have you tried different sleep training techniques? did they work?