Sleep deprivation- the difference between the first and second child.

 Sleep deprivation is something all soon to be parents are told to expect. I'm now on my third pregnancy and I have noticed a difference in  lack of sleep between both of my children at different stages.

With my first it felt awful at the start because I wasn't used to it. I was trying to breast-feed and keep on top of the housework. Everyone kept saying sleep when the baby sleeps, but how could I when there was so much stuff that I had to do? Some chores could only be done when he was sleeping, like taking the finished laundry upstairs and putting it away. 

But new-born stage soon turned into baby stage and he began sleeping for longer periods at night and so I wasn't as tired during the day and so I had more energy for other activities. By nine months he was on formula and basically sleeping through the night, though getting him to sleep was still a song and dance but once he was sleeping that was him.

My daughter on the other hand is different entirely. The new-born stage was tiring as usual but I was able to handle it better mentally because I knew what to expect. The difficulty this time was trying to time her routine around getting Jamie to school on time.  She is now nine months and is definitely not sleeping through the night. She is also on formula abut likes to wake at least twice in the night for a drink. My plan is now to slowly reduce the amount of formula in the bottles so she gradually starts to sleep through. 

Naps and bedtime

Today she had two naps both lasting forty-five minutes, bedtime was around half 6 after her bath but it was half 7 before she was asleep and that was with me rubbing her back, giving her the bottle and laying her back down when she got up again. 

She will then wake every four hours or so for a feed or lately around 3 in the morning she will be ready to chat and play. She has hit the nine month sleep regression as she is crawling around the cot and trying to pull herself up which is obviously more important than sleep- silly mummy didn't you know that?

It wouldn't be so bad if she made up for it napping, at least then I could catch up on my own sleep, but at 45 minutes a nap I barely have time to grab a snack before I close my eyes and then she's up again. 

Sleep deprivation is not just at the new-born stage. Each time you feel your are winning at getting your child to sleep for abit longer then bam! a sleep regression hits or the dreaded teething. For now I'm trying to ride it out, but at this moment in time this phase seems relentless but for now I know 'this to shall pass'.


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