Sleep deprivation- the difference between the first and second child.

 Sleep deprivation is something all soon-to-be parents are told to expect. I'm now on my third pregnancy and I have noticed a difference in lack of sleep between both of my children at different stages.

With my first, it felt awful at the start because I wasn't used to it. I was trying to breastfeed and keep on top of the housework. Everyone kept saying sleep when the baby sleeps, but how could I when there was so much stuff that I had to do? Some chores could only be done when he was sleeping, like taking the finished laundry upstairs and putting it away. 

But the newborn stage soon turned into the baby stage and he began sleeping for longer periods at night and so I wasn't as tired during the day and so I had more energy for other activities. By nine months he was on formula and sleeping through the night, though getting him to sleep was still a song and dance once he was sleeping that was him.

My daughter on the other hand is different entirely. The newborn stage was tiring as usual but I was able to handle it better mentally because I knew what to expect. The difficulty this time was trying to time her routine around getting Jamie to school on time.  She is now nine months and is not sleeping through the night. She is also on formula but likes to wake at least twice in the night for a drink. My plan is now to slowly reduce the amount of formula in the bottles so she gradually starts to sleep through. 

Naps and bedtime

Today she had two naps both lasting forty-five minutes, her bedtime was around half 6 after her bath but it was half 7 before she was asleep and that was with me rubbing her back, giving her the bottle and laying her back down when she got up again. 

She will then wake every four hours or so for a feed or lately around 3 in the morning she will be ready to chat and play. She has hit the nine-month sleep regression as she is crawling around the cot and trying to pull herself up which is more important than sleep- silly mummy didn't you know that?

It wouldn't be so bad if she made up for it by napping, at least then I could catch up on my sleep, but at 45 minutes a nap I barely have time to grab a snack before I close my eyes and then she's up again. 

Sleep deprivation is not just at the newborn stage. Each time you feel you are winning at getting your child to sleep for a bit longer then bam! a sleep regression hits or the dreaded teething. For now, I'm trying to ride it out, but at this moment in time, this phase seems relentless for now I know this shall pass.


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